I don’t think that anyone with true, deep feelings for someone else, ever stops loving them. I know that for some getting to a place where you stop caring for the person who betrayed you is the end goal and I’m here to tell you that it’s okay if you never stop caring. I think what is important is acknowledging the feelings and working to a place of acceptance. My ex will always be an important part of my life because of how he helped me to become the person I am today. And the fact remains (as I’ve said before), I could not have asked for a better dad for our kids.
I often told people I would never marry again. I never wanted to experience the intense pain that I experienced at the end of my marriage. I’m also a person who enjoys companionship, intimacy, being in love and having my person. I had to be willing to move forward and be willing to risk having my heart broken again. And it was more than once during the time I spent dating. I would have my hopes built up and then dashed over and over again. It was necessary for me to go through it because each time I experienced a little heart break, it showed me my resiliency.
In my head, I would tell myself have fun with dating and maybe I will be one of those women who has a lot of fun being single. For the most part, I enjoyed dating and getting to meet new people. I truly tried to look at it as an adventure and not to take it too seriously (but I also catch feelings pretty quickly) and just have fun. Live a life I didn’t get to experience when I was younger because I married so young.
I didn’t expect to meet anyone that I would want to spend the rest of my life with and yet I did.
It is so true that love and caring don’t go away just because the person is no longer in your life. I still love my ex-boyfriend although I was terribly hurt by him. Many don’t understand that. I’m glad that you’ve found that special guy and are enjoying your time together.
I’m so sorry for the hurt he caused you. I hope I can be in a place in my head and heart where I can actually be in the same place as my ex. Right now, it’s still raw for me, but I know that I will truly have healed when I can do that.