My friends who have followed me on this journey, I am so thankful that I had a place to share and heal. When I first started this blog, I was married, living in a rental house with my (then)husband. We were on our way to being empty-nesters and I knew that this might be a rocky journey for the both of us. My intent when I started this blog was to share my willingness to try new things, albeit I was hoping it would be with my (then) husband. We were looking at a place to buy, selling our home, and I thought, heading towards a life where we could enjoy/rediscover each other now that our kids were on their own journeys of adulthood.
If you have followed my journey, you know that none of this happened the way I planned, but it happened exactly the way it was supposed to.
Life is a journey and it is up to us to face each part of our journey head on, even though at times, the pain and sadness can bring us to our knees. Guess what? Joy and love can bring us to heights never anticipated, but I’ll get to that soon.
Last year, I was doing a podcast which explored the break-up of my now ex-husband. As those who have listened to the podcast and/or followed my journey in other ways, you know that my ex-husband ended our marriage pretty abruptly. Yes, we “stayed” married for six months after, but I realize now that he was done with the marriage the minute he said the words, “we are done.” I wasn’t sure what my life could be like without him in it. And as a result, I did some very irrational things as I saw my world as I knew it to be, ending.
One of the biggest pieces of advice I can give is PLEASE do not involve your children. It really doesn’t matter if your children are adults when your marriage breaks up. They love both parents and so, they should never be made to feel like they have to choose a relationship with one or the other. Let them figure out a relationship with both parents on their own terms. This does not mean you cannot disclose why the marriage ended, but try to keep it as non-emotional as possible.
I needed to take a break from my podcast. I may return to it someday. Right now, I’m enjoying other endeavors which speak to my creative soul. My future posts will be about what I’m doing now and what has transpired over the past year when I left my podcast.
Thank you for reading and thank you for following my journey.
I think we all do/say things out of hurt and anger that we would like to go back and change. I’m glad that you’re in a better place now.
We’ve all said and done things out of hurt and anger that we’d like to go back and change. I’m glad that you’re in a better and happier place now.
Yes, we do. Thank you! I am.
Christal, nice to hear from you again.
I look forward to reading about all the things you are doing.
Take care,
Cilka
Thank you! How are you doing?
Ok I suppose – I have got used to living alone and I must say I have started to enjoy it. I hike, read, knit, crochet, watch films, learn new things …. We will survive and thrive!